Moving down the ladder!

How do you know if you are no longer BFF or GF with someone? How would you tell if the very person who USED to be really BFF or GF suddenly ‘looked’ like they are damn farking busy, to be there for you??

Well, after a conversation with one of my friends who was going thru this shit with her so-called BFF or GF and also from my personal experience; we kinda compared notes and came up with this list of “Signs that you are NOT their BFF/GF OR Signs that you are on your way out from being BFF/GF” …..Recognize it when:

1. You suddenly become ‘fillers’ when they only call whilst driving to or after work…*I guess this is their way of minimizing talk-time…cos really, is very easy to come up with “hey, I call u bek, got police” or “hey, I call you bek, turning into basement parking”*…AND they NORMALLY don’t make that call.

2. They start telling you HOW BUSY their schedules have become, and how hard it is to make time to meet up…and blah blah blah blah blah!!!! *Hmmm, funny how they think that they are the only busy people?*

3. They no longer can commit to meet for simple gatherings like lunches, or dinners with friends (even if we gave ample notice!)…”Most likely answer that you will get – “see how la…I let u know later cos I dunno how BUSY work will get or I don’t know what are the plans I have yet”

4. You are the LAST person to know what is happening in their life, worst case scenario, you find out through friend A, who heard it from Friend B…..before it gets to you!...Better still, you discover through FaceBook or MSN updates! That’s when you should get the hint…how far down the friendship ladder you have gone!

5. You didn’t get the contact number when he/she was travelling overseas/outstation….but Friend A or maybe Friend B has it….once again, a great hint as to how far down the friendship ladder you have gone!

6. Conversations is reduced to just MSN chats…..again…minimize face-time and talk-time….easy escape route…cos you can’t actually SEE or KNOW if they are really busy or just not in the mood to talk after a while.

So, there it is…an interesting list to help some of us recognize how much friendships are actually valued by some people whom we once knew as BFF/GF! (or so we thought we knew them well!)

I guess we just got to learn to let go and not be hurt by it…cos they too, have to remember, we will not necessarily be there for them anymore when they decide to come back. So, we just got to move on with our lives..and FARK theirs!